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Good afternoon from Southeast Asia.2
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I have to do it again. It's a psychological thing.3
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I clear my throat 200 times before I start.4
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I don't know, I mean professional broadcasters probably got a term for that.5
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What's called lunacy. I don't know.6
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I used to watch these guys go through these long convoluted routines before they really stepped on the air.7
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And they'd cough and they'd hack and they'd drink lemon juice and go through all this crap.8
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And then they'd go on the air and they were fine.9
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I try to do that stuff and I go quote unquote on the air.10
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It doesn't work at all.11
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Okay, this is the episode or volume number 14 of the Southeast Asia Chronicle Podcast Things.12
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And they are designed to accomplish a few things to help you decide if you want to escape the matrix.13
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Remember that old story about the king?14
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He was a king somewhere, medieval times.15
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And some of the king, neighboring medieval village I guess, didn't like him.16
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So he came over one day and he said, you know, you're a fuckhead.17
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I really don't like you. You're an asshole.18
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Maybe he was, I don't know. I don't remember that part of the story.19
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I only remember this part of the story.20
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So the other king comes over, this king, and he says, you're an asshole and I hate your guts.21
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You know, if I ever get a hold of you, there's nobody around.22
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Man, I'm going to beat you to within an inch of your life with a ping pong paddle.23
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And then I'm going to tie you up with razor wire.24
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And then I'm going to have all my goats rip you.25
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And then let's see. Oh, then I'm going to cut your hands off.26
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Then I'm going to cut your legs off. Then I'm going to cut your gonads off.27
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You're going to poke your eyes out, cut off your tongue.28
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And I got a long, long list of shit like that, you know, if I ever get a chance.29
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Nobody around, nobody looking.30
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And the other king, he sat back and folded his arms and nodded once.31
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He said, yeah. I always remember.32
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Somebody taught me that when I was a little, little kid. It stuck.33
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Anyway, so we're trying to help you decide if you want to escape the matrix.34
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Maybe you don't. Maybe after you go through all these tapes, you'll decide, nah.35
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You know, Peoria is not so bad.36
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OK. Well, the other thing, if you decide you do want to.37
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Why don't you escape? Well, if you decide you don't want to escape and Peoria is OK after all.38
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Hell, I don't know. Listen to these anyway and you'll see what you missed.39
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If you do want to escape, then these are going to help you figure out where you might go, what you might find when you get there like that.40
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The other thing is. How are you going to live? Can you afford it?41
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Well, it's a hell of a lot cheaper. Every place in Southeast Asia is a hell of a lot cheaper than the US.42
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Shockingly, sometimes it's getting more expensive over the last decade.43
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It's a lot cheaper.44
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So that's what we're doing here. We're trying to answer all those questions for you.45
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OK, in the last one.46
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We did the the Pol Pot thing.47
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Oh, yeah. Talk about blackness.48
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I don't know too many human stories that are worse than that.49
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I mean, Hitler was bad.50
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Hitler was really, really bad.51
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He wasn't as bad, I don't think, as Genghis Khan or a few others throughout history.52
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Pol Pot was right up there, you know, he's right up there.53
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And I hope you've had a little time to digest that one, assuming you've listened to it.54
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I hope you it takes time to digest that one.55
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It's such a sensory overload when you when you just hear it, blurt it out.56
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Like I did, you know, we did the whole thing in an hour and 40 something like that.57
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You can't observe that all.58
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You got to take time. You got to take. Oh, man. The first time I went there was almost 10 years ago59
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to the killing fields. And60
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I still haven't assimilated it all yet.61
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And I think about it a lot and I've written about it extensively.62
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Got the strangest sounds up here. We're up on 26 and Manila.63
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It's strange that we're up on the roof, essentially.64
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Little concrete bunkers. Yeah.65
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I don't want to think about Pol Pot anymore.66
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Except you kind of have to. I didn't do that necessarily to make you think about Pol Pot a lot.67
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I did it to bring about this68
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big systemic paradigm shift in your69
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in what you expect to find in Southeast Asia.70
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I'm trying to adjust your thinking so that you won't be as shocked as 99 percent of the Yahu's who show up here.71
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And they think they're still in England or San Francisco.72
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Weird stuff. Weird stuff going on. What's going on?73
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I don't know. I'm going to blow up soon.74
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I tried to give you a really major shift.75
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And I know it probably started to work a little bit. I don't know how much it worked.76
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Curious. I'm curious. You know, write in. Go through Twitter. Write in. Tell me.77
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Yeah, I really want to know. I'm just thinking that I really want to know.78
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What effect did that have on you?79
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As far as how you perceive Southeast Asia now. I mean, that was Cambodia, but Southeast Asia is, you know,80
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it could have been Thailand. It could have been any country down there. Same shit could have happened.81
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Could have been Vietnam. Could have been whatever.82
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That's just kind of, you know, anyway, I'm just curious what I'm curious.83
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I'm curious how you thought of Southeast Asia before episode 13 and how you think of it after episode 13.84
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I want to know what the shift was in your thinking, in your perception.85
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And in what ways?86
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I really want to know that. And I know, you know, if you make sense, a lot of people don't.87
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I would say somewhere around 82 to 87 percent don't make any sense at all when they write.88
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I don't know if they're drunk or crazy or both.89
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Don't know, but they don't make any sense at all.90
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And you can't even find anything you can reply to. But anyway, if you make sense,91
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you know, go read the comments on any YouTube channel and you're thinking, well, what video did they watch?92
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If your stuff makes sense, I'll make a note of it and I'll try to answer like I do here on most episodes.93
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But I want to know. I want to know what people think. I want to know if I'm doing my job, really.94
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That is my job.95
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I've got knowledge and you don't. And I'm trying to give it to you. And I want to know if that's working, if I'm doing it correctly.96
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OK, so the last time we left you off in Bangkok.97
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I just figured out why my mic keeps shaking.98
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Okey dokey. It's very often an earthquake.99
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I mean, like, I don't know, seems like seems like once a day.100
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We get an awful lot of the jello type earthquakes where it's no jarring or no shaking.101
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It's just like, oh, let's see if I have a stroke. Am I going to pass out?102
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That's kind of what it's like. We get so many of those.103
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OK, so we left you in Bangkok before Pol Pot.104
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And in my personal story, I had gotten a room.105
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It was a horrible nightmare. And then I got out of the room.106
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And that's going to happen to you. Probably over and over and over.107
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We're going to go through some landlord stories later on. I'll probably not going to group together. I'll tell them as they come up.108
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I then went to another room about a mile and a quarter away.109
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And that was landlord was a Jewish guy from New York. He had been a real estate agent in New York.110
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And wife kicked him out. Kids hated him. No. His fault or not.111
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Well, I eventually found out the answer to that. But we'll save that for later.112
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So I rented a nice room, a nice little one bedroom room up on a higher floor.113
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And a very entertaining so a good part of town.114
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Price was about the same as what I'd been paying Frank the thief, the want to be thief scammer piece of shit.115
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And that was OK. That was OK.116
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I like it was a corner unit. I liked it.117
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The units across from me and beside me were empty. It was quiet.118
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It was OK. It was OK.119
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And I stayed there very long time.120
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Only thing I didn't really like was that the landlord insisted on being paid in cash.121
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Well, we know why for tax purposes.122
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The place was kind of run down.123
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I remember sitting there. He came over with his girlfriend. He was like 65, probably at the time, something like that. His girlfriend was 20.124
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He had gone to Bangkok to meet her.125
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And she was working in a hospital and had a great future. Great future.126
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Nice girl.127
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And he bugger and bugger and bugger to quit and come and live with him in this town.128
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And she was like, OK, maybe.129
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You know, and he kept bribing her with bigger and bigger allowances.130
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And her family was like, no, no, no. She had a decent family up in Bangkok.131
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They're like, no, this guy's a loser. He's a no, no, no. Listen to us. Listen to all of us. We're unanimous. He's a loser. He's a piece of shit.132
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He's a sex pet piece of fucking shit. Don't go. Don't go. Don't go.133
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And of course, she went, you know, moved in with him.134
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And then began her slow and torturous demise.135
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God, I saw this. I still see it so incredibly often.136
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And we'll talk about that later in some depth.137
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But anyway, they came over when they were shown me this apartment.138
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They both came over together and they're looking around. I went in and looked around and said, oh, that is a nice layout.139
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Nice location, nice everything. Price was fine.140
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But I get to looking more at the details and I realized that like all of the trim141
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around the doors and the windows and things like that had been painted a different color than the walls, of course, you know, highlight color.142
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And I said, wait a minute. Wait, wait, wait, wait. Look at this. Look at this.143
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Let's say you got a three inch wide, four inch wide piece of trim going vertically in a door jam.144
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And then you got the wall, you know, after that.145
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The paint when they were painting this piece of trim, whoever did it.146
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They were like two and a half year olds painting in a coloring book because that's how bad they were at staying in the mines.147
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You everything was covered with mistakes outside.148
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You know, the brush slopping over onto the wall or from the wall slopping over onto the trim by in some cases, four or five inches.149
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Everywhere.150
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I was looking at it, trying to take this in. Oh, man, you must have got some nine year old Thai kids to do this, you know.151
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And I made the comment, I said, geez, you know, I don't understand these, these people, you know, why, why can't they.152
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Anybody can paint better than that. You know, that's just absurd.153
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And I said, well, you know, we're going to have to trim that up because that's I can't, I can't live like that.154
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I mean, it's not good. No, this is painted like, like some kids painted their treehouse.155
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Really? Seriously, it was terrible. Probably get pictures somewhere.156
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And they both got really quiet and they looked at the floor and she looked at him.157
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And then I got it. Oh, yeah. This guy's name was Jay.158
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He had painted everything himself. OK, so that was a harbinger of.159
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How that entire state was going to go from a maintenance standpoint.160
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He turned out to be one insufferable jackass piece of shit.161
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Now, I had never. No, I was going to say I had never known a Jewish person. I had known one.162
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I had an attorney one time who was a Jew and.163
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We went to court for some thing. He was trying to negotiate something for me and his manner.164
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So off putting it obnoxious.165
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Counterproductive, backhanded and stupid.166
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That the opposing party, their attorney was like, what planet are you from?167
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And I ended up getting a shitty deal just because he was so stupid.168
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And I thought, wow, wow, that was shocking.169
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And he was really expensive. And that was my first and only experience with anybody of the Jewish faith.170
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And I thought, oh, well, that's a one off. That couldn't be.171
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I can't. Doesn't have anything to do with the Jewish people. He just a fruit.172
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And that was that was decades and decades before in the US.173
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But so this guy was going to be my second experience with the person of Jewish faith.174
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Wow. And I'll just tell you those stories as they come along. Probably pretty soon.175
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So anyway, I moved into this place. And it was OK.176
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It was fine. Except for the maintenance.177
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I had to fix absolutely everything. I had to pay for everything out of my pocket.178
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Everything was broken because everything that had ever been put in there was the cheapest possible quality.179
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But used didn't work right when he put it in.180
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He didn't put it in correctly. And I had to take up the slack for all of them.181
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But anyway, while I was there, I did a hell of a lot of traveling everywhere, just everywhere.182
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People came to visit. My family came to visit.183
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Went to every other country.184
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And in some cases, I went to other countries for like six months at a time to live there.185
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But I kept this place because it was just cheap and it was it was home.186
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It felt like home to me.187
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I had I was looking for I looked for a wife.188
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Really, I want to do by this time.189
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By this time, you know, I'm a year past losing mine.190
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And I'm starting to think, you know, life was a hell of a lot better when she was around.191
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I sure wish I had somebody.192
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You can't say you want somebody like that.193
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You know, you're going to get a whole new entity.194
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But I wanted somebody.195
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You know, I wanted a new somebody in my life.196
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And I started looking fairly hard.197
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And so during that time, I was doing a lot of dating.198
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I was doing a lot of learning.199
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Like you can't believe.200
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It's like taking, you know, 15 college courses a day.201
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That's how much you were crammed into your tiny brain.202
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And I was just pretty much continuously shocked at the worthlessness of the girls.203
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Oh, God.204
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I have words. I'll just have to tell the stories and then you'll have to, you know, try to absorb what you can.205
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I kept going back to the same bar.206
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That was my hangout.207
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Those were, you know, sort of my people.208
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The bar slash restaurant thing, the open one, you know, downtown.209
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And that was a good hangout.210
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It remained a good hangout pretty much all the time.211
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Usually hangouts like that will run their course.212
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You know, really good in the beginning and they peak and then they go down.213
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You know, you get tired of the people or you start seeing problems with the establishment or whatever.214
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This one didn't. This one just stayed good.215
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All the time, all the decade that I was there, this was a good place to hang until COVID shut it.216
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Yeah. Thank you, China.217
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Thank you. Thank you, China.218
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Hey, yeah. For all that you do for the world.219
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Yeah. Appreciate it.220
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Fucking toads.221
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Scorched earth motherfuckers.222
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That's how I feel. I'm sorry.223
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Don't give me the button.224
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Because I'll push it.225
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What story do we want first?226
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Oh, yeah. Okay. In that bar. In that bar.227
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I was in there five nights out of seven when I was in town.228
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And I had never taken a girl from that bar.229
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I didn't want a prostitute.230
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I think some of them were lovely, some of them were great.231
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Some of them would just about convince you they would be a perfect wife.232
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Okay, let's hit that first.233
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Among the bar girl crowd.234
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Why do they go there? Well, they usually almost always go there because they want money.235
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Well, no, no, no, no. That's not true.236
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Well, yeah, they want money. Okay. That's a given. They want money.237
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But there's a percentage of them who go to these tourist towns and become prostitutes because they don't like tying men anymore.238
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Or other men, Filipino men or whatever in their country, they don't like them.239
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They've learned that lesson. Then they're done that they're done with that shit.240
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Because they're drunk and they gamble and they beat them and they fuck around.241
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They fuck all the girlfriends.242
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They make babies all over the fucking village.243
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And then they get to live with that, you know.244
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I mean, it's so rampant. You cannot comprehend it.245
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Nobody knows whose babies are whose. You know, they don't do DNA.246
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Plenty of guys, plenty, plenty of guys.247
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Raising kids for their entire lives into adulthood.248
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Even to this day, they don't know that that kid came from the neighborhood.249
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Okay, that happens in America sometimes. Every country.250
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In Thailand, I think more than any other country that I've ever been in Thailand more.251
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That is...252
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...Commonism. Seeing a spider.253
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So what percentage of them go to these tourist towns?254
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Primarily because they want to find a phalang.255
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They like phalangs. First of all, they love that white skin.256
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They're huge on all kinds of whitening creams and stupid shit.257
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Because they want to be white also.258
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And they can never grasp that we go there because we don't like white.259
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We want them to be tanned and lovely and they don't want to be tanned and lovely.260
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They want to be white like a phalang lady.261
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So they'll spend fortunes on whitening creams.262
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God, I hate it. I used to hide them. I used to throw them in the garbage.263
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When I go to girlfriends, when I caught them with that shit.264
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And some of them can be pretty much permanent.265
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Use them long enough and they're powerful enough. They're the right kind.266
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They can be kind of permanent. Look at Michael.267
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Look at Michael.268
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So they want a phalang. They want the money. They want the stability.269
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Other girlfriends, when the girls there get a phalang and if they marry one.270
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And if he's any good at all, they're going to tell everybody because they're proud.271
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They're proud to have a phalang.272
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And even if he's kind of a shit, they'll say, oh, he's perfect. He's fucking perfect.273
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He gives me all this money.274
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The sex is really, really good compared to a little tight guy.275
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You know, fuck those guys.276
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They're polite. They respect me. They love me.277
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They care me. We go everywhere. We have a car. We have a car.278
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Can you believe that? We have a car.279
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He bought me a new motorbike.280
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He's not overly jealous. He never beats me. He never hit me.281
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Well, probably all that stuff is pretty much true.282
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And so all the friends are thinking, oh my God, oh my God, oh, oh, oh God, oh, I got to have a phalang too.283
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That'll be the answer to all my problems.284
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So the whole village wants a phalang, but there's no phalangs in the village.285
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And even when they go to Bangkok and look around, they see phalangs all over the place.286
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And they're thinking, oh, God, I want that one. I want that one.287
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They used to tell me stories of how they just lusted after phalangs they would see on the street or whatever in the restaurants.288
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And the phalang would look at them and smile and they would just turn away and look down because they're just shy.289
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They don't know what to do. They're scared. Scared of phalangs.290
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They're big. Phalangs are big. And we don't smile all that much. We look serious. We look mean. We look angry.291
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You know, we might be laughing our ass off inside, but we look serious. We're not.292
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We're happy to look at you. A lot of us. Not all of us.293
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But even if this phalang came over and talked to him, even if they went over and talked to him,294
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nothing's going to happen because they don't speak one word of English.295
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They studied it in school, kind of sort of the Thai schools teach it kind of as an afterthought.296
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A little bit. You don't have to pass it. And nobody taught them any kind of correct pronunciations.297
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Or they never had to speak with anybody in real time. They don't know English, period. They don't know it.298
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Every once in a while, they recognize one word and then they've got to stop and think, well, what does that mean?299
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Let's see. Let's see. Let's see. Anyway, they want phalangs.300
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Not as much as they used to, because now the girlfriends are starting to talk more and more and more about the301
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drunken fat goddamn stinking unclean brits that they got hooked up with and didn't work out.302
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In many, many, many, many cases, they will actually dump the brits to go live back in the jungle in the village in the chicken shed,303
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because that's better than living with the mouthy drunken grit. Jesus Christ.304
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And so that word gets around. They start telling their friends, well, you know, I got one, but he's not a good one like those other ones.305
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You know, he's just a big walking fucking turd, you know.306
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And so the girls don't want phalangs nearly as much as they used to. Thank you. Thank you, England.307
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It used to be also that they saw a phalang as their ticket to usually America. They wanted to go to America.308
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They would ask you where you're from. If you're from England, oh, that's nice. If you're from America, oh, oh.309
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And then they're just in your face. You know, you can't get rid of them. That used to be the case. Now.310
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Yeah, I'm from America. Oh, oh, yeah. OK. All right. Well, you're going to stay here in Thailand, you know? Yeah.311
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OK, OK, OK. We can talk. They hear the news just like we do, gets translated to Thai and Tagalog and every other language.312
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And they know what they don't know what America has become like an American knows it. But they're really getting the idea.313
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It's crime. The police are crazy. The government is crazy. The people are crazy. There's road rage every fucking corner.314
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It's so expensive. And now some number of their girlfriends have gotten taken to America and they report back, you know,315
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we're making money like I've never seen money before in my life, but we're not living any better than we were in Thailand in America316
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because everything cost a goddamn arm and a leg. So the idea that maybe someday you're going to take them to America, that's not really too much of an incentive anymore.317
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Some of them still haven't gotten the clue yet, but most of them are getting it.318
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And a very large number. I saw this number increase over the years. You ask me somebody, you want to go to America? Oh, no, I don't think so.319
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Thailand is good for me, you know, plenty of their girlfriends get taken to England or America or whatever the hell.320
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And six months later, they're begging to come back. In some cases, they would have to go to their embassy in that country and say, look, I can't take any more.321
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I want out. I just just just get me a plane back to Thailand or whatever country. I can't take America. I can't take this guy anymore.322
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I just want out. And then, of course, everybody hears those stories, too, and they don't want to be one of those.323
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And not every relationship is like that. There are a number of Thai girls who end up in America or whatever.324
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They're happy. They're happy with the guy. They're happy with lifestyle and they don't want to go back to Thailand. But so, so, so many of them fling out.325
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And they just they just long for the jungle and their friends and sit and have any big communal meals on the floor of rice and fish.326
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God, they miss it. They miss it so much. Sometimes the guy will send them back to Thailand, you know, once or twice a year.327
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And they can hang out for a couple of weeks and fuck a few Thai guys and nobody ever knows.328
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And they do it. They all do it. What percentage?329
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You send the love of your life. You're soulmate. You send her back to Thailand for two weeks a month.330
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How many of those girls are going to go fucking some of their old boyfriends or whatever around the village?331
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My guess. All I can do is guess.332
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90 percent. 90 percent. You'll never know.333
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You'll never know.334
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How are you going to know? Speak Thai? You're going to go back and talk to everybody in the village? You're not going to talk to anybody. I'm going to tell you the truth.335
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She is their people, not you. They don't fucking care about you.336
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You're not going to find out ever.337
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Well, that's kind of the way it is in America. But in America, that stuff has a way of floating to the surface, you know, like a floating turd.338
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In Thailand, it's not going to ever.339
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So.340
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These girls, they go to the tourist towns, the prostitute towns.341
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All the tourist towns are prostitute towns.342
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What percentage of them go there to find a nice guy?343
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Probably one who's going to stay in Thailand or whatever country they're in.344
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We're talking about all countries. Southeast Asia.345
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I would say.346
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God, I don't know. 60, 70.347
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No, no.348
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50 or 60 percent. That's their dream. That's their goal. That's why they're going.349
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They're going to try to put up with the bar just long enough to find a good man and get out.350
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What they do not understand, and you cannot explain it to them, is that, number one, the bar will ruin them and turn them into a not desirable girl.351
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If you explain this in some detail in one of the earlier podcasts, you get them the day they arrive at the bar before they ever get their first customer.352
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They're 25 percent lost or whatever. I said already, just by making the decision to go be a hooker.353
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They're 25 percent lost to a guy who wants a nice girl.354
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They get the first customer, they're 50 percent lost. They stay for a week and fuck a bunch of guys over the first week.355
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They are, you know, 98, 99 percent, 99.8 percent lost.356
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Some guys know this instinctively. I did.357
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Some guys don't know it and they'll marry him right out of the bar.358
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Sometimes they marry him in the bar with all of their old customers sitting there smirking.359
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Yeah, I fucked her five times. Oh, she loved it.360
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That's at their wedding.361
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Maybe 30, 50 guys she fucked in there at their wedding in the bar.362
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Okay, that's lovely. That's nice.363
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What percentage of those marriages work out when you marry a bar girl?364
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One in 300.365
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Probably the best you can hope for is that soon after you marry, like a week, she completely loses her looks.366
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She packs 50 pounds, face turns to a raisin, and she becomes so ugly that even if she wants to cheat, she doesn't have the opportunity anymore.367
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These girls, I don't know, there's a saying that says you can't fix a prostitute because they're not broken.368
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Well, they are broken. They're broken to the guy who wants a forever relationship. They're broken.369
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That wall between them and fucking for money that's broken, that wall is down. Now it's just rubble.370
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And it can't ever be rebuilt.371
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Ever. They can ignore it. They can kind of sort of choose to stay on their side of the wall.372
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But, you know, the notion of having sex with strangers is no longer taboo even at all.373
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There's no wall there. So they just will if they feel like it.374
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And they don't understand why that would bother you.375
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I had one once. She wanted a real relationship.376
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And she still liked the excitement of the bar life. She was a bar girl.377
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And I just know I just put her off. I just held her off. She hung around because she was nice and she was really good company.378
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In some ways, we really hit it off. She liked the same activities. Nice girl.379
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And she wanted us to be forever. And I kept saying no.380
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And she said, why? Because you're a bar girl. You fuck everybody.381
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And she was like, well, yeah, but it's just work. You know, it shouldn't mean anything to you. It's just work. It's work.382
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And I said, how many times do you come when you go with these customers? Oh, quite a bit.383
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Well, then it's not just work. There's something going on there. There's an attachment and a chemistry going on there.384
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Might not be much of one, but it's there. She finally.385
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I was trying to get her out, trying to get done with her. And she was becoming pretty annoying.386
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And she realized that I didn't want to spend very much time with her.387
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And she came up with this proposal and the proposal was that, well, if she kept working, if we got married and she kept working.388
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That would be good for me because she wouldn't be around all the time.389
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And then, you know, when she got done with the customer, she'd come home and I guess we'd fuck them.390
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She wouldn't touch a condom.391
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You know, I'm trying to get across to you.392
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But you're on Venus, you know, you're not on Earth anymore.393
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What percentage of girls go to these tourist towns?394
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Just because they need money to feed the kids.395
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They're back in the village. They're their parents, their aging parents. They can't work anymore.396
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A lot of Thais will stop working around 50.397
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A lot of them are perfectly capable of working more, but they just don't.398
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50, 55, that's kind of just the age you just sort of stop and kids will take care of you know.399
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There is no kind of social security or pension or anything in Thailand. There's nothing. Oh, no, that's not true.400
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They do get a kind of a government subsidy thing. It's, fuck, what is it?401
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It's absurd. It's like nine dollars a month or something. I can't remember.402
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It's nothing. It's just nothing.403
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Buys you a little bit of rice for a few days.404
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So the parents are largely responsible for pushing them to go to the bar because they think they're going to make big money in the bar and they're going to live well.405
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They're going to have rice every day then, you know, maybe some fish also.406
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So yeah, the parents push them. They'll do it sort of subliminally.407
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Some just come out and say, hey, you need to go work in the bar.408
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And some of them are like, oh, you know, we talked to so and so the other day and her daughter works in the bar and she sends money every week.409
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And those people have rice and fish every single day.410
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And they'll subliminally push them like that.411
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OK. What percentage of girls go to the bars?412
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Just because they like to party and drink and fuck.413
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And the money's OK, too.414
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Thirty percent.415
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Now, the ones who went there to find a filet and find a husband, they went there.416
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When they first went there, they were still kind of sort of possibly capable of maintaining a real, stable, forever kind of a relationship.417
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That's the guy. First got.418
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After that, after they've gone with more than one customer, that's gone.419
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That capability is gone. It's dead.420
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They don't know it. They don't know it.421
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They think they're still the same sweet, innocent girl that walked in.422
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So you go sit down somewhere and.423
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Watching the cars, watching the people, watching the scenery and the bar girl comes and she might come off the street or she might be working in the bar or whatever.424
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She'll come and sit down next to you and talk and it's OK. It's OK conversation.425
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And. She starts talking about. How she really wants to find a husband.426
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She really that's what she wants in her heart. And I think she does.427
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She does. And you say, oh, how long you been working in the bar? Oh, nine years.428
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You don't ask them how many guys they fucked if they're good looking.429
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You can average one or two a day.430
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Sometimes two or three guys at a time.431
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And you don't insult them. You don't just flat out say no, no, get away, get away.432
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No, you just go and talk to them and you just don't tell them, you know, we ain't getting married.433
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It's going to happen. But she still thinks she's got that capability.434
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She doesn't accept if she if she finds a fool.435
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Some of the girls I've seen this happen way too many times, some of the girls who go there wanting a fill in want to be married.436
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They get sucked up in the life.437
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:23,000
And it's exciting. There's always action. There's always music. There's always a new guy every three or four minutes to talk to.438
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:30,000
And they'll promise me anything. And half the time they believe them.439
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:39,000
But it's fun. Oh, my God, it's fun. And they got spending money. They can stay all all night out with their girlfriends.440
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:47,000
They go fuck anybody they want. They can drink.441
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:57,000
And then if a guy ever does come along who's serious about them, even though they're a barmaid, they think about it for a while.442
00:43:57,000 --> 00:44:07,000
Nah, no, sorry. And then they just live up the next years in the bar.443
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:16,000
Now, for them, Thai women, Southeast Asian women in general, tend to they do this weird thing.444
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:25,000
I saw this. I lived on a number of Indian reservations in the U.S. the Southwest and in the Northwest and in Canada and Alaska like that.445
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:29,000
And I and I lived on those reservations. I married one of them.446
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:41,000
They can be the most beautiful girls on earth until they're not. And they don't age gracefully. They don't age slowly.447
00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:52,000
They hit a point where over a period of two years, they go flip flop.448
00:44:52,000 --> 00:45:00,000
They go from cute to unnerving in two years.449
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:12,000
The really crude guys, the Brits will often say, oh, the window of fuckability on that one has closed.450
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:17,000
It is disgusting, but it's accurate. Nobody wants them anymore.451
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:24,000
But nobody wants them as a wife either. And now they're too old and ugly to get too many customers.452
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:28,000
I knew one. She was she'd been a customer.453
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:36,000
I mean, she had been a hooker in the bars since she was probably 15.454
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:42,000
In old days, underage was fine. Now they kind of reinforce it.455
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:49,000
And when I knew her, she was early 60s. And her look, she was hideous. She was hideous looking, just hideous.456
00:45:49,000 --> 00:46:00,000
And she would try to mask that with, you know, God, pints of makeup. And of course, that never works.457
00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:06,000
She got a customer maybe twice a year.458
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:16,000
The rest of the time she lived on teeny tiny tips or whatever she got off of lady drinks.459
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:21,000
Probably a couple of... well, nobody wanted to buy her one.460
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:26,000
So that's what happens to them. And they don't know it. They can't see that coming.461
00:46:26,000 --> 00:46:32,000
Once their looks change, you know, a halibut. I used to fish halibut commercially.462
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:41,000
Halibut does a thing. They're kind of a not a bad looking fish, you know, for the first while of their life.463
00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:54,000
And then at some point, some gene kicks in and one eye kind of shifts over to the other side of their head.464
00:46:54,000 --> 00:47:01,000
And nobody cares because we're just going to eat them, you know. But they look really hideously ugly.465
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:05,000
And so a lot of the indigenous girls around the world, that's what happens.466
00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:13,000
I mean, one eye doesn't slide over the other side of her head. But we used to call it doing the halibut.467
00:47:13,000 --> 00:47:22,000
Oh, she did the halibut. Yeah, we were crude motherfuckers sometimes.468
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:30,000
But they just go through the switch or change. Nobody wants them at all, not even as a prostitute.469
00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:39,000
That is tragic. You know, you got to snag a guy. In most cases, you got to snag a guy when you're young and hot.470
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:53,000
And he likes you for that. And then you show him a good heart. He'll come to love your heart and your soul.471
00:47:53,000 --> 00:47:57,000
And then he doesn't give a rat's ass what you look like from that point on.472
00:47:57,000 --> 00:48:02,000
He's hooked there forever from now to afterlife, to the next life, to the next life.473
00:48:02,000 --> 00:48:10,000
He's hooked on your heart, which is the only thing you really, really got.474
00:48:10,000 --> 00:48:20,000
That's the only thing you can craft and effect and hone and make good. Your heart.475
00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:25,000
That's all you've got. You don't have your looks. There's just this thing that kind of happens to you, you know.476
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:34,000
And then they're gone, like the halibut.477
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:46,000
So I felt for these girls an awful lot. I had incredible empathy for them.478
00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:55,000
Most of them were in such pain because they have come there with a dream.479
00:48:55,000 --> 00:49:07,000
And within a very short time, a week or two, the dream is gone. No intelligent man wants a prostitute.480
00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:13,000
Ah, no, I can't make that blanket statement. Some guys don't care.481
00:49:13,000 --> 00:49:18,000
Some guys truly don't care. They can go fuck other customers, have customers. They don't care.482
00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:23,000
Most of them don't want that. And the girl says, oh, I won't fuck anybody else.483
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:31,000
And the guys are like, okay, baby, I believe you. Yeah, right. Come on.484
00:49:31,000 --> 00:49:41,000
So they spend years in the bars dreaming and wishing, look at that guy. He could be my husband.485
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:47,000
I could love him. Oh, God, I could. I could.486
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:58,000
And they never, ever, ever get that guy. When he's looking at him smiling, he's not thinking about being their husband.487
00:49:58,000 --> 00:50:04,000
He's thinking about just fucking the brains out tonight. And then that's it. Don't call me. Don't call me.488
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:11,000
We're done. Thank you. Here's a thousand bucks. We're done.489
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:18,000
And so every time that happens, every time a girl likes a guy and he takes her, the girls call it try before you buy.490
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:25,000
That's how they see it. They want you to try them before you buy them.491
00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:31,000
But they don't understand that you have no intention of buying them.492
00:50:31,000 --> 00:50:38,000
Not if you've got half a goddamn frog brain.493
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:43,000
God, what sad stories. Learning about that culture down there.494
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:47,000
You know, in the U.S. we see prostitutes. We just dismiss them. We don't even really see them.495
00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:53,000
They're like street people, you know.496
00:50:53,000 --> 00:51:03,000
Down there, different. It's not the same. It's not even remotely the same. It's not even on the same planet the same.497
00:51:03,000 --> 00:51:11,000
And God, that takes a time to understand that. And the vast majority of guys that I saw come down there never, ever grasp that.498
00:51:11,000 --> 00:51:14,000
Some do. Some do.499
00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:19,000
Ten percent? Yeah, maybe ten percent.500
00:51:19,000 --> 00:51:34,000
The rest of them, the other 90 percent, are in some stage of denial or delusion or something about bar girls.501
00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:37,000
Part of the problem is, I think I mentioned this before, they're Buddhists.502
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:44,000
And if you are a Buddhist, Buddha has taught that if you do a bad thing, like go fuck somebody's friend,503
00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:52,000
well, it's just, you know, you're not going to hell. There's no such thing as hell in Buddhism. Not really.504
00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:58,000
You're just going to take a hit to your karma. But that's OK, because you can fix that. You can neutralize that.505
00:51:58,000 --> 00:52:05,000
You can counteract that. You just go make merit somewhere. You go do a nice thing for somebody, somewhere.506
00:52:05,000 --> 00:52:09,000
If you can't, if you can't, if you're too busy, you just think hard about it for a while.507
00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:18,000
And that's pretty much as good. So it's a really common thing down there, people who've done shit to other people.508
00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:29,000
And the bar girls will try to do this, some of them. They'll go to a local temple and offer to clean their latrines.509
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:37,000
And, you know, they look in there and go, oh, I get to fuck you, Jesus Christ, that's hideous beyond comprehension.510
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:41,000
This is a three day job. Well, they're put in three or four hours.511
00:52:41,000 --> 00:52:46,000
They say, well, you know, looks a little better, right? OK, thank you. And they're gone.512
00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:54,000
And in their minds, they have been wholly absolved of any bad thing they did.513
00:52:54,000 --> 00:53:00,000
In America, they think about, oh, God, oh, God, maybe I'll go to hell.514
00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:12,000
Probably. I don't care. I don't care. I fuck it. It's OK. Hell's OK. So I get to know countless bar girls.515
00:53:12,000 --> 00:53:16,000
But I wouldn't take them. I wouldn't take them.516
00:53:16,000 --> 00:53:23,000
Now, I was in this bar, the same bar, restaurant bar.517
00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:26,000
I didn't think of it as a bar because I hardly drink it at all.518
00:53:26,000 --> 00:53:36,000
So I drink cokes and whatever shit. Coconut, a lot of coconut juice. A lot of coconuts died.519
00:53:36,000 --> 00:53:42,000
And the staff was getting increasingly frustrated.520
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:47,000
All the girls are, why, why, you know, is this guy gay? No, he never goes with other guys.521
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:52,000
Why, why won't he take us and fuck us, you know, but we really want to.522
00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:58,000
And I get offers to go for free, but they were still bar girls.523
00:53:58,000 --> 00:54:01,000
Oh, God, we want to go fuck this guy. Really, we all do.524
00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:05,000
Really, why won't he do anything? Come on, come on.525
00:54:05,000 --> 00:54:17,000
And so this is over quite a few months. This became an obsession with quite a few of them.526
00:54:17,000 --> 00:54:28,000
Because they'd get guys come in, fill in, and they come in and sit down, talk to the girls for five minutes, ten minutes, fifteen minutes, half hour, buy a couple of drinks.527
00:54:28,000 --> 00:54:31,000
Hey, you want to go? Yeah, OK. And they're off to the counter.528
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:36,000
And I'd been in there months. Never happened once.529
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:39,000
And I was getting lonely. God, I was lonely.530
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:43,000
But, you know, it's the old saying, water, water everywhere, not a drop to drink.531
00:54:43,000 --> 00:54:47,000
I repeated that to myself quite a few times a day.532
00:54:47,000 --> 00:54:52,000
You look around, see all these gorgeous girls. Gorgeous, gorgeous.533
00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:57,000
Prettier than almost all the girls I ever saw in any Western country.534
00:54:57,000 --> 00:55:01,000
Well, because I happen to like that look.535
00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:05,000
Water, water everywhere, not a drop to drink.536
00:55:05,000 --> 00:55:14,000
I came from an old seafair or something where they're out in the middle of the ocean, they run out of water on some sailing ship.537
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:17,000
And they're thirsty as hell. They're dying of thirst.538
00:55:17,000 --> 00:55:21,000
And they look around, water, water everywhere, not a drop to drink.539
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:34,000
And that's what it was for a guy who wanted a meeting of the hearts from Southeast Asian girls.540
00:55:34,000 --> 00:55:38,000
That was sad for me. Sad.541
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:41,000
Now, a lot of guys just go ahead and take one.542
00:55:41,000 --> 00:55:45,000
Take her home. Take her to the condo, hotel, the condo, whatever.543
00:55:45,000 --> 00:55:50,000
And they roll around, they laugh. And, oh, she pretends like she loves him.544
00:55:50,000 --> 00:55:54,000
And maybe in that moment she does. I'm not sure.545
00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:58,000
They have a great time. They go out and eat. They laugh and they talk and they watch a movie.546
00:55:58,000 --> 00:56:01,000
And they fucking, fucking, fucking.547
00:56:01,000 --> 00:56:09,000
And the guys are just in seventh heaven.548
00:56:09,000 --> 00:56:12,000
I mean, they know it can't last. They're going to marry him.549
00:56:12,000 --> 00:56:19,000
But they believe the girls love him.550
00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:24,000
And maybe in their own Southeast Asian way they do a little bit, kind of, sort of.551
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:32,000
You don't know because you can't probe to the depths of their soul and find out what's truth and what is not.552
00:56:32,000 --> 00:56:36,000
Maybe they don't know.553
00:56:36,000 --> 00:56:39,000
But the guys would get done with these encounters.554
00:56:39,000 --> 00:56:49,000
And that took care of a very big percentage of their need for a, quote, unquote, significant other.555
00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:56,000
Because that person was a significant other for that period of time, that evening.556
00:56:56,000 --> 00:57:07,000
A lot of guys take it for a week, you know, go traveling around, whatever, professional girlfriends.557
00:57:07,000 --> 00:57:10,000
And some of those guys had really nice times doing that.558
00:57:10,000 --> 00:57:14,000
And for them, that was a valid thing to do.559
00:57:14,000 --> 00:57:19,000
It satisfied some or all of that need that they had.560
00:57:19,000 --> 00:57:25,000
For me, you know, I'm out in the middle of the ocean.561
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:28,000
I've run out of water.562
00:57:28,000 --> 00:57:31,000
Dying of thirst.563
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:34,000
Somebody gives me a bottle.564
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:38,000
Oh, God, thank you, thank you, thank you.565
00:57:38,000 --> 00:57:45,000
And I pry off the top and I go to glug, glug, glug, glug, glug.566
00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:51,000
It's just dusty air.567
00:57:51,000 --> 00:57:56,000
And I felt that ten times a day.568
00:57:56,000 --> 00:58:01,000
These girls would come and talk to me.569
00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:06,000
Sweet girls.570
00:58:06,000 --> 00:58:11,000
And I'm looking at them and listening to them and I think, God, you know,571
00:58:11,000 --> 00:58:16,000
I could probably marry you.572
00:58:16,000 --> 00:58:21,000
But,573
00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:26,000
you fuck everybody.574
00:58:26,000 --> 00:58:30,000
And it would be like getting that bottle full of dusty air.575
00:58:30,000 --> 00:58:37,000
There would be nothing to nourish my soul.576
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:41,000
I mean, if you could,577
00:58:41,000 --> 00:58:49,000
if prostitution did not permanently wreck them and their soul,578
00:58:49,000 --> 00:58:57,000
then you might meet a really nice one and spend some time and you would say, OK, baby,579
00:58:57,000 --> 00:59:02,000
God, I like you a lot. I really do. Do you like me? Oh, yeah, I love you.580
00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:05,000
Well, what do you think?581
00:59:05,000 --> 00:59:12,000
You give up this whole prostitution thing forever. It never enters your head again.582
00:59:12,000 --> 00:59:14,000
And we just get married.583
00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:18,000
Now,584
00:59:18,000 --> 00:59:23,000
if prostitution was not a poison that penetrated to the depths of the soul,585
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:30,000
maybe you could do that. And she would say, OK, let's do it.586
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:35,000
And you move away from the bar town or the bar587
00:59:35,000 --> 00:59:39,000
and you get married.588
00:59:39,000 --> 00:59:42,000
Maybe you can be happy like that, but589
00:59:42,000 --> 00:59:49,000
prostitution is a cancer and you virtually never get rid of all the cancer.590
00:59:49,000 --> 00:59:54,000
It's always some lurking around inside the body.591
00:59:54,000 --> 01:00:00,000
Prostitution is a cancer.592
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:03,000
And I just wouldn't go with one.593
01:00:03,000 --> 01:00:08,000
So I was in this bar all the time and they're like having these competitions, you know,594
01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:13,000
informal competition to see which one could finally get me to my condo.595
01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:17,000
God, they tried every fucking thing.596
01:00:17,000 --> 01:00:24,000
Everything. Do I want to go into that?597
01:00:24,000 --> 01:00:29,000
Well, no, no, just just imagine, just use your imagination.598
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:37,000
Everything they tried, everything you can imagine.599
01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:40,000
They tried600
01:00:40,000 --> 01:00:48,000
everything you can imagine. What can you imagine?601
01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:53,000
Expand your consciousness a little bit, expand your imagination.602
01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:59,000
Everything you can imagine. OK, I'm just saying this over and over like a fish, you know.603
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:05,000
That's what they tried. And I just why? I don't want to drink a bottle of hot air.604
01:01:05,000 --> 01:01:09,000
I'm thirsty for water, not for a bottle of hot, dusty air.605
01:01:09,000 --> 01:01:15,000
So there's no point. There's no point in going with you.606
01:01:15,000 --> 01:01:23,000
And they couldn't grasp it. They just thought I was weird. They thought, oh, he's gay. He's fucking gay, you know.607
01:01:23,000 --> 01:01:30,000
Now, one night I was in there and608
01:01:30,000 --> 01:01:34,000
the mamasan had decided, OK, that's that's enough of this shit.609
01:01:34,000 --> 01:01:38,000
This guy's lonely.610
01:01:38,000 --> 01:01:42,000
Sometimes I would sit in the very back in the dark611
01:01:42,000 --> 01:01:47,000
and there was this little bit of a jungly environment back there.612
01:01:47,000 --> 01:01:55,000
Just the jungle grew on into the open sides of this bar restaurant thing.613
01:01:55,000 --> 01:02:01,000
And one night I was back there.614
01:02:01,000 --> 01:02:06,000
I had this weird thing. It was some kind of psychological glitch thing in my brain.615
01:02:06,000 --> 01:02:09,000
Now, my wife and I never went on buses.616
01:02:09,000 --> 01:02:19,000
I don't think we were ever on a bus one time in our entire lives.617
01:02:19,000 --> 01:02:25,000
But every time I got on a bus in Southeast Asia, a bus, not a plane,618
01:02:25,000 --> 01:02:28,000
a bus.619
01:02:28,000 --> 01:02:31,000
I would think of her620
01:02:31,000 --> 01:02:34,000
and just cry my eyes out.621
01:02:34,000 --> 01:02:38,000
Like first hour on that bus. I don't know what the hell that was about.622
01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:42,000
But anyway, in those days, I was doing a hell of a lot of crying about my wife.623
01:02:42,000 --> 01:02:46,000
I just cried all the time. Drop of a hat. Just sitting somewhere in a restaurant.624
01:02:46,000 --> 01:02:48,000
Think about her. Cry.625
01:02:48,000 --> 01:02:51,000
God, I wish she could have seen this. I wish she could see that. I wish.626
01:02:51,000 --> 01:02:55,000
I wish, I wish, I wish.627
01:02:55,000 --> 01:02:59,000
So this one night I was in the back of this bar, sitting back there. I was feeling sad.628
01:02:59,000 --> 01:03:02,000
I didn't want the fucking girls to come back there.629
01:03:02,000 --> 01:03:07,000
And I was sitting there drinking my Pepsi, whatever the hell I drank.630
01:03:07,000 --> 01:03:15,000
And there was a monsoon coming through, so there was lightning and rain and wind was blowing.631
01:03:15,000 --> 01:03:21,000
It was whipping these huge banana leaves around next to where I was sitting.632
01:03:21,000 --> 01:03:26,000
And God, it was a fucking glorious night. It was just a glorious night.633
01:03:26,000 --> 01:03:31,000
I revel in those nights because when I worked on the rescue tug,634
01:03:31,000 --> 01:03:36,000
when I had that business, that's the only time we got called out is when it's blowing a hurricane.635
01:03:36,000 --> 01:03:41,000
We never got to go anywhere. It was nice.636
01:03:41,000 --> 01:03:46,000
And we did a lot of really, really, really ugly shit. Really ugly shit.637
01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:49,000
Shit, we had no business doing it, but we did it.638
01:03:49,000 --> 01:03:57,000
OK, so after I got out of that business, anytime I could be somewhere where it's raging and blowing and storming and pestilence639
01:03:57,000 --> 01:04:02,000
and goats falling from the sky, you know, shit like that, every time that happened,640
01:04:02,000 --> 01:04:08,000
I loved it more than anybody else because I'm thinking,641
01:04:08,000 --> 01:04:12,000
thank you Buddha, thank you Great Pumpkin, thank you Jesus, I love you all.642
01:04:12,000 --> 01:04:16,000
I don't have to go out tonight. I can just sit here and look.643
01:04:16,000 --> 01:04:25,000
And so those nights for me were just magical, just storming and blowing and raining and monsooning and lightning and thunder.644
01:04:25,000 --> 01:04:29,000
Fuck, that was just delightful.645
01:04:29,000 --> 01:04:45,000
So I was sitting back there in this bar alone and of course, of course, fucking tears started, you know.646
01:04:45,000 --> 01:04:48,000
Fuckers.647
01:04:48,000 --> 01:04:51,000
And there was nobody around. It was darkish. I was in the shadow.648
01:04:51,000 --> 01:05:08,000
I just let it go. I didn't sob, you know. I didn't bend over and bury my face. I just sat there and let them run.649
01:05:08,000 --> 01:05:12,000
Eventually, one of the girls figured this out.650
01:05:12,000 --> 01:05:16,000
You know, they'd come back and they'd say, you want another drink, you know, whatever.651
01:05:16,000 --> 01:05:20,000
I said, no, no, no, no. Before they got too close, I just, no, thanks.652
01:05:20,000 --> 01:05:25,000
And they figured this out anyway.653
01:05:25,000 --> 01:05:32,000
They didn't stare at me and they didn't say anything.654
01:05:32,000 --> 01:05:40,000
They just, you know, give you a little why, turn and walk away. Thank you. Thank you.655
01:05:40,000 --> 01:05:46,000
But increasingly, I was back there for three hours or something.656
01:05:46,000 --> 01:05:50,000
Increasingly, they got concerned, I guess.657
01:05:50,000 --> 01:05:58,000
Thai girls, they're going to steal your wallet. They're going to steal your fucking ring and your watch and your phone.658
01:05:58,000 --> 01:06:07,000
But they have a caring side to them. It's just sweet and delightful.659
01:06:07,000 --> 01:06:12,000
Most Southeast Asian girls do. Filipinos are famous for it.660
01:06:12,000 --> 01:06:17,000
They make the world's best nurses. I think Filipinos are number one.661
01:06:17,000 --> 01:06:32,000
Thais are probably number two. They care. They care for people who are, you know, down.662
01:06:32,000 --> 01:06:36,000
So pretty soon one came back.663
01:06:36,000 --> 01:06:40,000
And I said, no, no, no, no, no. And she came back anyway.664
01:06:40,000 --> 01:06:52,000
And she just sat down next to me.665
01:06:52,000 --> 01:06:56,000
And she just touched me on the shoulder.666
01:06:56,000 --> 01:07:03,000
Never said a word. Just walked away.667
01:07:03,000 --> 01:07:08,000
And then a little while later, another one came back, did the same thing.668
01:07:08,000 --> 01:07:25,000
And over the next three hours, you know, eventually all of them had done it.669
01:07:25,000 --> 01:07:29,000
And that was a very special evening for me.670
01:07:29,000 --> 01:07:36,000
I saw the upside of Southeast Asians and Thai people and prostitutes.671
01:07:36,000 --> 01:07:47,000
I saw little glimpses of the good sides of their hearts.672
01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:55,000
And of course that's, you know, seared into my soul for all time.673
01:07:55,000 --> 01:08:00,000
So finally I, no more tears, get done.674
01:08:00,000 --> 01:08:07,000
And they started asking me, come on, come on, join us. You know, we're having a little party over at some table.675
01:08:07,000 --> 01:08:11,000
So I went over there and sat down.676
01:08:11,000 --> 01:08:14,000
I think they gave me a free drink or something.677
01:08:14,000 --> 01:08:21,000
Yeah, they did. They gave me some free alcohol and drink.678
01:08:21,000 --> 01:08:25,000
And drank that thing down and that helped. I feel a little better.679
01:08:25,000 --> 01:08:30,000
And we're just kind of talking and they're talking Thai and I'm trying to learn Thai.680
01:08:30,000 --> 01:08:35,000
You know, we're going along like that and everything's just OK, but I'm still just sad to the bone.681
01:08:35,000 --> 01:08:41,000
You know, I spent three hours crying in the fucking rain, you know.682
01:08:41,000 --> 01:08:45,000
And the moussang she disappeared for a while.683
01:08:45,000 --> 01:08:51,000
And then pretty soon everybody at the table684
01:08:51,000 --> 01:08:55,000
stopped talking and they looked at something kind of off to my side.685
01:08:55,000 --> 01:09:00,000
I thought it was somebody they knew, you know, I didn't turn around.686
01:09:00,000 --> 01:09:03,000
And687
01:09:03,000 --> 01:09:09,000
finally I did turn to look, see what they're looking at.688
01:09:09,000 --> 01:09:14,000
And the moussang was there. Moussang was,689
01:09:14,000 --> 01:09:21,000
they're usually old, they usually had spent their lives as hookers, you know, and they're too old to be one anymore.690
01:09:21,000 --> 01:09:25,000
They want to be and they'll try. But, you know,691
01:09:25,000 --> 01:09:31,000
she was standing there, normal clothing, you know.692
01:09:31,000 --> 01:09:40,000
And slightly in front of her was this girl that I'd never really seen before. Maybe I'd seen her, but I didn't remember.693
01:09:40,000 --> 01:09:47,000
And she was stunning beyond words.694
01:09:47,000 --> 01:09:52,000
And the moussang had dressed her.695
01:09:52,000 --> 01:10:01,000
Where the hell they got it? In this old, ancient, traditional Thai clothing.696
01:10:01,000 --> 01:10:05,000
It was a costume, certainly, but697
01:10:05,000 --> 01:10:13,000
in that moment it didn't seem like a costume to fit her flawlessly.698
01:10:13,000 --> 01:10:20,000
The old clothing had kind of a satiny appearance, bright colors.699
01:10:20,000 --> 01:10:28,000
We'll Google some pictures of traditional Thai girls and actually I got pictures, I got a million of them.700
01:10:28,000 --> 01:10:33,000
The old traditional clothing.701
01:10:33,000 --> 01:10:39,000
Moussang had her hands a little bit behind this girl. She had her hands on her shoulders.702
01:10:39,000 --> 01:10:54,000
And the girl was standing there. She would kind of mostly look down, but every once in a while she'd look up and just catch my gaze, look back down.703
01:10:54,000 --> 01:11:10,000
And she was a bar girl, she worked in that bar. I hadn't seen her before.704
01:11:10,000 --> 01:11:29,000
And all the girls are looking at her, and they're looking at me. And the moussang said, this one is for you.705
01:11:29,000 --> 01:11:36,000
And I took her home.706
01:11:36,000 --> 01:11:40,000
I didn't pay her. She never said a word.707
01:11:40,000 --> 01:11:46,000
Later I found out she was disappointed that I hadn't paid her.708
01:11:46,000 --> 01:11:51,000
And then I did. And then I sent money to her. She was gone by then. She had left the bar.709
01:11:51,000 --> 01:11:54,000
She had found something.710
01:11:54,000 --> 01:11:58,000
And I sent money to her and verified that she got it.711
01:11:58,000 --> 01:12:08,000
It was what it was.712
01:12:08,000 --> 01:12:10,000
All righty.713
01:12:10,000 --> 01:12:20,000
After that, the girls decided, okay, this guy is available. Now we broke him. We fucking broke him.714
01:12:20,000 --> 01:12:24,000
Now we got him. He is ours.715
01:12:24,000 --> 01:12:29,000
And I still never went with any of them.716
01:12:29,000 --> 01:12:37,000
I had one special night and that was it. And I didn't want them.717
01:12:37,000 --> 01:12:46,000
And it turned out that one of her friends718
01:12:46,000 --> 01:12:53,000
decided she had come there specifically and exactly to that town to find a filet.719
01:12:53,000 --> 01:12:57,000
And she decided I was the filet.720
01:12:57,000 --> 01:13:03,000
And she hung around me all one night.721
01:13:03,000 --> 01:13:10,000
And I didn't buy her any drinks because I didn't particularly like her anyway. She was okay. I didn't hate her.722
01:13:10,000 --> 01:13:14,000
But I, you know, she's just okay.723
01:13:14,000 --> 01:13:24,000
And she just hung and hung and hung and hung and hung. Relentless. The goddamn Terminator.724
01:13:24,000 --> 01:13:29,000
She was pretty. She was pretty girl. It just wasn't for me. You know, sometimes somebody can be beautiful.725
01:13:29,000 --> 01:13:36,000
I watched the Miss Universe pageants. God, gorgeous girls. Just technically perfect.726
01:13:36,000 --> 01:13:43,000
But I really don't want any of them. You know, one on a four maybe. If I met them somewhere, I would want to talk to them.727
01:13:43,000 --> 01:13:47,000
It just depends on what a person likes, you know?728
01:13:47,000 --> 01:13:55,000
And that's what she was. She was...729
01:13:55,000 --> 01:13:59,000
Anyway, she finally towards the end of the night, getting ready to leave. And she says, I want to be with you.730
01:13:59,000 --> 01:14:05,000
Well, fine. How many times during that evening had I heard that? 20, 30?731
01:14:05,000 --> 01:14:13,000
I said, No, no. Sorry. No, no. No. No, no. It ain't going to happen.732
01:14:13,000 --> 01:14:18,000
And she just kept asking and asking to the point where I was getting perturbed.733
01:14:18,000 --> 01:14:24,000
Like, no. I had had that happen before.734
01:14:24,000 --> 01:14:30,000
And she finally said, I don't want money. I said, Well, that's okay. That's nice. Okay.735
01:14:30,000 --> 01:14:36,240
you know, that's a nice offer. Thank you, thank you really, really that's a nice offer.736
01:14:36,240 --> 01:14:43,840
But no, listen to me, you know, watch my lips, no new taxes, you know. No, it's not gonna happen.737
01:14:43,840 --> 01:14:52,400
No, no, not in this lifetime, not next, not gonna happen. And it didn't faze her, she just,738
01:14:52,400 --> 01:15:01,040
she had decided I was it, I was the one. And then she started crying. Now Thai girls,739
01:15:01,040 --> 01:15:08,760
most Southeast Asian girls, but Thai girls more than any other girls can cry on cue,740
01:15:08,760 --> 01:15:14,120
and they do, and they will, and they, it's just a thing, they just turn it on and they cry. Some741
01:15:14,120 --> 01:15:20,920
of them cry convincingly, some of them are not so convincing, but she was convincing. She was742
01:15:20,920 --> 01:15:25,080
really, really sad. She was genuinely sad that this, whatever she thought was gonna happen wasn't743
01:15:25,080 --> 01:15:31,960
gonna work out. And she kept saying, look, look, I don't want your money, you don't have to give744
01:15:31,960 --> 01:15:42,360
me money. I just want to be with you tonight because I'm really lonely and I just need to be745
01:15:42,360 --> 01:15:52,120
with you. Now these girls were, I didn't worry about these girls stealing my wallet in the night.746
01:15:52,120 --> 01:15:58,600
They might have, but if they did, you know, you have good recourse because they were well vetted747
01:15:58,600 --> 01:16:04,520
by this monocon. Most of them do not get them hardly at all, if at all. This one did. This one748
01:16:04,520 --> 01:16:11,440
was very, very careful. And so that wasn't a consideration. Finally, after a couple hours of749
01:16:11,440 --> 01:16:19,400
pestering me like this, a couple of hours, I said, look, okay, okay, you know, I'm leaving right now.750
01:16:19,400 --> 01:16:27,720
I'm not gonna pay your bar fine. I'm not gonna give you any money. You're gonna sleep on the sofa.751
01:16:27,720 --> 01:16:32,120
You're gonna sleep on the sofa. I have a bedroom. I'm gonna sleep in the bedroom. You're gonna sleep752
01:16:32,120 --> 01:16:40,440
on the sofa. Okay, yes, that's okay. That's fine. She just wanted somebody to sit with and talk to753
01:16:40,440 --> 01:16:49,080
and somebody to go with and call a friend like that. She said, okay, let's go. Let's go. And she got her754
01:16:49,080 --> 01:16:54,680
stuff and jumped on the motorbike and we went back to my place. And true to her word, she went out and755
01:16:54,680 --> 01:17:02,440
made a little bed on the couch and we watched a movie and didn't hold hands. Nothing. No, this is not756
01:17:02,440 --> 01:17:09,760
gonna happen. I was not interested at all. I finally went in and went to bed. And of course,757
01:17:09,760 --> 01:17:12,720
you know fucking well what happened. You know, at three o'clock in the morning, she's in there.758
01:17:12,720 --> 01:17:23,560
You wake up with somebody kissing on your neck, you know. What the hell? You know, come on. We're759
01:17:23,560 --> 01:17:30,320
animals. No, I mean, really, we're not kind of like animals. We are animals. Just disgusting pig,760
01:17:30,320 --> 01:17:37,560
fucking shit bastards. And okay, so that happened. And then we had to have a talk in the morning,761
01:17:37,560 --> 01:17:40,920
you know, like no, you know, this was a mistake. This is not gonna happen again. This did not mean762
01:17:40,920 --> 01:17:46,400
anything. I'm never gonna give you money. You're never gonna come here again, you know, like that.763
01:17:46,400 --> 01:17:53,040
Okay, so next night she ended up there again. Well, I think she never left.764
01:17:53,040 --> 01:18:09,840
She ended up staying there a couple of weeks. And I was not even really attracted to her. Just765
01:18:09,840 --> 01:18:17,760
on a one to ten, my attraction, on a one to ten for her looks, she was a seven, you know,766
01:18:17,760 --> 01:18:24,240
nice looking, nice looking woman. Nice looking. As far as my attraction to her specifically,767
01:18:24,240 --> 01:18:30,680
it was a two. Just wasn't there. Just, you know, sometimes it's not, it's just not there. And it768
01:18:30,680 --> 01:18:34,360
wasn't, and it wasn't changing. It wasn't getting any better. I did get to know her quite a bit.769
01:18:34,360 --> 01:18:44,680
Her English was pretty good. She had three kids, didn't live with her. She had held some pretty770
01:18:44,680 --> 01:18:50,520
responsible positions up in Bangkok. Her husband was a fuckhead, fucked around, fucked everybody.771
01:18:50,520 --> 01:18:57,840
He worked in the same company. He fucked everybody there. And they split and she didn't want another772
01:18:57,840 --> 01:19:06,360
tie. Oh God, no. She'd rather die. So that's why she went to that town. She wanted to find a good773
01:19:06,360 --> 01:19:11,840
man. And she thought the bars were the way to do it because that's the only place that you're gonna774
01:19:11,840 --> 01:19:16,680
have exposure to them. That's the problem. You can't just go to one of these towns and walk around.775
01:19:16,680 --> 01:19:25,880
You can't speak English. And how, you know, by far the most effective way of getting exposure to776
01:19:25,880 --> 01:19:33,640
Phu Leng is to work in a bar. And they know this. They've reasoned it out. That's gonna get you777
01:19:33,640 --> 01:19:39,720
exposure to 15, 20, 50 guys every night. Yeah, they're a bunch of fuckheads and sexpats and778
01:19:39,720 --> 01:19:48,880
creepozoids and dog fuckers and they're miserable scum. But there might be one. There might be one779
01:19:48,880 --> 01:19:58,720
good one. And that's their dream. That's all they got. That's the only dream they got.780
01:19:58,720 --> 01:20:15,640
And that was her dream. And I was chosen. We hung around. We did everything. We went everywhere.781
01:20:15,640 --> 01:20:33,080
We walked around everywhere. She could talk well. Well enough. She was smart. And she was782
01:20:33,080 --> 01:20:46,640
jaw-droppingly insatiable. And I didn't like it. And she would be, she would test her to the point783
01:20:46,640 --> 01:20:54,960
where you just gave up. When I was really young, you know, 16, 17, I had a few girlfriends like that.784
01:20:54,960 --> 01:21:00,800
You were horny, a whore down, you know, you were. And you, oh God, you just wanted them 24-7. You785
01:21:00,800 --> 01:21:07,000
just wanted, wanted, wanted, wanted, wanted. Oh Jesus Christ, you'd do anything, you know. And you786
01:21:07,000 --> 01:21:10,400
pester and pester and pester. And sometimes they would just like, okay, just do what you want.787
01:21:10,400 --> 01:21:17,440
You know, I'm just gonna go sleep here. You do what you want. When you're done, you know, go.788
01:21:17,440 --> 01:21:23,840
And that's the way it was with her, with this girl. And that's how I felt about it. It's like,789
01:21:23,840 --> 01:21:32,080
God damn it, you know. Hurry, hurry up. Come on, just do what you want. Quickly, please. You know.790
01:21:32,080 --> 01:21:43,040
That's the way it was. And she kept hanging around for quite a while. Sometimes she went to work.791
01:21:43,040 --> 01:21:50,760
Bugs, bugs. Sometimes she stayed with me. Never paid her, never paid her at all. I'd take her out792
01:21:50,760 --> 01:21:59,560
to the theater, stuff like that. She developed an eye problem. And the doctors there and in793
01:21:59,560 --> 01:22:05,120
Bangkok, they wanted something godly thing like, I don't know, a hundred thousand bots, something794
01:22:05,120 --> 01:22:11,160
like that, to do this operation on her eye. She couldn't afford it. I didn't want to pay it. And795
01:22:11,160 --> 01:22:15,560
she was going blind. She was literally going blind. Thighs have a condition they can get,796
01:22:15,560 --> 01:22:22,040
and they get quite often. She was pretty much blind in one eye and about half blind in the other797
01:22:22,040 --> 01:22:29,080
eye. And I didn't want to pay for that. I wasn't a boyfriend. I'm just some, just a friend. You know,798
01:22:29,080 --> 01:22:34,760
she just hanging out. She could go away at any given time, but I wouldn't miss her at all. But799
01:22:34,760 --> 01:22:41,000
as she rooted around and rooted around and finally found some doctor, some obscure doctor in some800
01:22:41,000 --> 01:22:48,720
little town somewhere, almost to the Cambodian border. And he said he would do for 10,000 bots.801
01:22:48,720 --> 01:22:56,520
I said, oh yeah, come on. Come on. No, no, no, no, no, no. You will go blind for sure now. And she802
01:22:56,520 --> 01:23:03,400
didn't have, she didn't have a thousand bot. And finally she convinced me. No, she checked him out803
01:23:03,400 --> 01:23:12,200
and he's good enough. And he can make her see again. And God, I resisted that for a long time,804
01:23:12,200 --> 01:23:16,440
couple of months thinking, no, I'm not going to pay to have her fucking blinded. You know,805
01:23:20,120 --> 01:23:24,440
a socialist medicine there. We're going to talk that. We're going to talk about that806
01:23:24,440 --> 01:23:31,880
pretty, pretty dramatically at some point. It's fucked. All these stupid little snowflakes and807
01:23:31,880 --> 01:23:36,840
millennials are in America trying to make it a socialist country. Fuck them. They're so fucking808
01:23:36,840 --> 01:23:44,360
stupid. They have no fucking clue what they're talking about. Imbeciles. Anyway, in the end,809
01:23:44,360 --> 01:23:49,560
I relented. I said, God damn it. You know, I think this guy's going to blind you. He's going to,810
01:23:50,360 --> 01:23:52,920
you might lose your life. Do you really want to do this?811
01:23:55,320 --> 01:23:59,320
And she said, yes, I got to do this because I can't see. I can't see anymore.812
01:23:59,320 --> 01:24:08,520
And took her out there. It's a hell of a long trip out there. Took her in.813
01:24:11,720 --> 01:24:17,160
And the procedure was, I don't know, three or four hours. Just he did just in there in the office814
01:24:17,160 --> 01:24:22,040
and in this broken down little, it looked like an old communist slum building, you know.815
01:24:22,040 --> 01:24:28,280
And there's like six or seven, eight other girls waiting in there for the same procedure.816
01:24:30,280 --> 01:24:37,800
And he did this and she came out all bandaged up. Did one eye. So that's all bandaged over.817
01:24:40,760 --> 01:24:43,480
And she's really fucked up. She's really sick and really messed up.818
01:24:45,000 --> 01:24:49,640
And she came out and then I had to take care of her for like two weeks before she could take819
01:24:49,640 --> 01:24:54,840
her damn patch off. So we're just waiting, waiting, waiting. You know, are you going to be blind in820
01:24:54,840 --> 01:24:59,080
that eye? You know, is the eye even still in there anymore? You take it out and sell it on eBay, you821
01:24:59,080 --> 01:25:09,320
know. And we waited all that time, took the patch off and she could see. You'd done it perfectly.822
01:25:12,440 --> 01:25:16,680
And then she had to wait some period of time and took her back, got the other one done.823
01:25:16,680 --> 01:25:22,280
It was perfect. Perfect. This was a doctor who cared about people and he was good.824
01:25:23,640 --> 01:25:28,600
And he did it and he fixed lots and lots and lots of people. I'm not sure. I think girls get this825
01:25:28,600 --> 01:25:32,680
more than guys, but I'm not positive. I can't remember the name of it. You can see it. If you826
01:25:32,680 --> 01:25:38,120
look closely into their eyes, you can see this developing. And it's really, really common.827
01:25:38,840 --> 01:25:44,920
Saw it a million times. And it's mostly just tiger eyes. And it's really, really common.828
01:25:44,920 --> 01:25:50,040
And it's mostly just Thai girls. They probably, you know, probably girls around the world or829
01:25:50,040 --> 01:25:53,400
people around the world probably can get it, but it's just really, really prevalent in Thailand.830
01:25:53,400 --> 01:25:59,240
I don't know why. It's not a cataract. It's a completely different thing from cataract.831
01:26:03,000 --> 01:26:11,080
Anyway, she just was bound to determine to insert herself in my life.832
01:26:11,080 --> 01:26:14,360
And I was becoming increasingly determined that she was not going to.833
01:26:15,880 --> 01:26:22,040
So I would make her go to work more and more and more. And I told her flat out, you know,834
01:26:22,040 --> 01:26:25,240
you've got to find a boyfriend. You got to find a real boyfriend because I am not him835
01:26:25,240 --> 01:26:32,840
and I'm never going to be him. I'm sorry. I'm not. It was a little bit like going to bed with your836
01:26:32,840 --> 01:26:38,440
sister, you know. No, no. Maybe your sister's gorgeous, but it's your sister, you know.837
01:26:38,440 --> 01:26:47,080
It was just like that for me. And so I began trying to push her out more and more and more.838
01:26:49,960 --> 01:26:52,680
And that made her all the more insistent on staying.839
01:26:54,760 --> 01:26:58,120
I took her around. I took her to a number of different countries. We did that. We traveled840
01:26:58,120 --> 01:27:09,640
together. Good company. Great company. But my grandmother was great company too. But I didn't841
01:27:09,640 --> 01:27:16,120
want to have sex with my grandmother. This girl wasn't old. She was, uh, see how old she was.842
01:27:16,120 --> 01:27:26,200
Probably 20 years younger than me at that time. Finally, it just, she just became so pushy that843
01:27:26,200 --> 01:27:34,120
I just had to get her out. And so I took her stuff. When she was at work, I took all her stuff,844
01:27:34,120 --> 01:27:38,200
took her to the bar in bags. I said, here, I'm sorry. You can't come back.845
01:27:40,520 --> 01:27:48,120
And I took her key card to the condo. Couldn't get in. And I hadn't thought about it before,846
01:27:48,120 --> 01:27:51,720
but that was a mortifying experience because all the other girls saw me do this.847
01:27:51,720 --> 01:27:58,280
And this was extremely humiliating for her. Morons that guys often are, I was a moron.848
01:27:58,280 --> 01:28:04,280
And I had no intention of hurting her. I just had to get her out. Just out. And so this really hurt her.849
01:28:11,080 --> 01:28:14,600
And then the next night, you know, knock, knock, knock on my door, she had followed850
01:28:14,600 --> 01:28:24,200
somebody in through the security door and sob and just sob and her eyes out. And I'm like, well,851
01:28:24,200 --> 01:28:29,560
I'm really sorry that you're sad, but I cannot help you. Really, you're going to have to be an adult here.852
01:28:29,560 --> 01:28:35,960
You're going to have to suck this up. Uh, you know, I'm sure you had boyfriends throughout your life853
01:28:35,960 --> 01:28:39,480
and some of them you broke up with and they were sad and they probably cried.854
01:28:39,480 --> 01:28:49,800
And now you're crying and I'm sorry. I cannot fix this for you. I just, it's not in me to do it. I855
01:28:51,000 --> 01:28:56,280
know you're going to have to go. And she collapsed onto the floor there in the hallway outside my condo.856
01:28:59,960 --> 01:29:06,280
And just sobbed. Sobbed. Not like her heart was breaking.857
01:29:06,280 --> 01:29:12,200
It was breaking. Now I said, Tiger girls can cry on cue and they can and they do a lot.858
01:29:12,200 --> 01:29:15,320
Uh, this wasn't on cue. This was genuine.859
01:29:19,400 --> 01:29:24,600
And I kind of sat down with her right back up against my door. I didn't want to let her in.860
01:29:26,360 --> 01:29:31,400
I sat with her and rubbed her back. I'm sorry, you know,861
01:29:31,400 --> 01:29:35,960
we can still try to be friends once in a while, you know, maybe once a month, we'll go have a lunch862
01:29:35,960 --> 01:29:41,560
or something like that. You know, you've got to go find a real boyfriend. Really you do.863
01:29:43,080 --> 01:29:49,400
And I made her cry all along because I'm a fucking idiot. Most guys, I'm not as much of an idiot now864
01:29:49,400 --> 01:29:53,960
as I was, but I still am to some degree because it's in our fucking genes.865
01:29:53,960 --> 01:29:59,000
You know, idiocy is in our genes. We can't get it all out.866
01:30:01,000 --> 01:30:06,520
And finally, I just couldn't take any more sobbing. There's a couple hours out there in the hall.867
01:30:08,040 --> 01:30:11,560
I couldn't take any more. I, you know, I just couldn't. I let her in.868
01:30:11,560 --> 01:30:22,280
I let her sleep on the couch. But that helped her greatly. And she didn't try to come in the bedroom.869
01:30:22,280 --> 01:30:29,160
She didn't try to do anything. But it helped her in her heart.870
01:30:29,160 --> 01:30:40,200
To just have somebody in her life that cared enough, they would let her in out of the hallway. That's all. That's all I did.871
01:30:40,680 --> 01:30:46,440
And for that moment in time for her, that was enough. That helped. It helped her a lot.872
01:30:46,440 --> 01:30:58,760
So next morning, she's up and helped her go. She went back to work. I went back to her, running around, traveling, doing stuff, having adventures.873
01:31:00,760 --> 01:31:07,720
But for the next few years, I've been trying to get her to come in.874
01:31:07,720 --> 01:31:20,200
She's been running around, traveling, doing stuff, having adventures. But for the next few years, she remained in my life to one degree or another.875
01:31:26,520 --> 01:31:31,160
And I helped her a little bit when I could. She never asked me for money. Never, ever, ever in all those years.876
01:31:31,160 --> 01:31:39,320
She never one time asked me for money, except for one time. I had told her, look, I'm not giving you any money. I never gave you any money.877
01:31:39,320 --> 01:31:42,920
You know, once in a while I buy some silly little thing for her, a blouse or something like that.878
01:31:48,040 --> 01:31:54,200
We would go to a mall or something and I would just have a feeling I wanted to buy her some kind of a blouse or whatever.879
01:31:54,200 --> 01:32:03,080
And I would say, do you like that one? Yeah, that's nice. But this one is cheaper. You know, I can, this one is good. You know, you can buy the cheap one.880
01:32:03,080 --> 01:32:15,240
So I'd buy her whatever she truly wanted. And then she'd get it and we'd be going out and she would tell me, she'd translate for me and tell me what the sales girl was saying to her in Thai.881
01:32:15,240 --> 01:32:29,320
And the sales girl, sales girls, plural, every time we did this, would tell her, look at this stupid filet. He has a lot of money. You don't settle for one blouse.882
01:32:29,320 --> 01:32:33,800
You buy 10 things. He'll pay for them all. I know he will, you know.883
01:32:37,240 --> 01:32:43,320
That's the prevailing attitude, not just in Thailand, in all Southeast Asia countries.884
01:32:43,320 --> 01:32:53,480
That's the attitude. Anyway, we continued to spend time together once in a while. She had some really bad customers.885
01:32:53,480 --> 01:33:03,480
One of them heard her, put her in the hospital. When she got out, she told her to run because I was looking for him. I was going to kill him and I wanted to.886
01:33:03,480 --> 01:33:10,120
Really badly, I wanted to. He, he heard her bad. Just an animal, just a fucking animal.887
01:33:10,120 --> 01:33:15,880
He tore up a hotel room they were in and then ran away. The hotel tried to make her pay for it.888
01:33:15,880 --> 01:33:31,560
He trashed her motorbike to the point where it wouldn't run anymore. And the hotel kept her motorbike as security for her paying for the damage this guy had done on the room.889
01:33:31,560 --> 01:33:37,320
The room was in his name, not her name. But this is Thailand, Southeast Asia. That's how they think.890
01:33:37,320 --> 01:33:51,560
I was incensed by that. I went to the hotel and they had actually taken it into the hotel and they had it locked up behind their fucking counter.891
01:33:53,720 --> 01:34:04,200
I just went in and stared him down, took it. They had it chained to some little wooden part of the counter and I892
01:34:04,200 --> 01:34:07,800
jerked it until that broke. Wielded it outside, wielded it down the street.893
01:34:09,480 --> 01:34:13,960
Took it to a shop, got it fixed up. Looking for the guy and never found the guy.894
01:34:16,120 --> 01:34:24,040
So we remained friends like that. That's a friendship. She had three daughters. They were895
01:34:25,640 --> 01:34:27,800
teens, early teens.896
01:34:27,800 --> 01:34:34,840
I would let them come and stay with me and we would go to movies and we'd do bowling.897
01:34:35,480 --> 01:34:43,400
They came from a village up north, Isan, and they had never seen a bowling alley. What the fuck is this thing?898
01:34:43,400 --> 01:34:49,160
What are you doing there? Look at these people. They're rolling these balls. Well, that looks like fun.899
01:34:49,160 --> 01:34:55,480
Okay, so everything I did for him was brand new. Took him to water parks and took him on ferry rides.900
01:34:55,480 --> 01:35:01,640
That was a lot of fun. Showing them new stuff and they were supremely nice kids, all girls.901
01:35:03,000 --> 01:35:10,440
They loved me and I loved them. We did a lot of stuff together. Showed them a lot about life.902
01:35:17,560 --> 01:35:20,280
That was a weird but positive thing in my life.903
01:35:20,280 --> 01:35:31,800
She eventually met a guy, Australian guy. Nice guy. Good solid guy and he loved her. He loved her. He just fucking loved her.904
01:35:34,840 --> 01:35:39,400
She didn't like him. She confessed she didn't like him.905
01:35:39,400 --> 01:35:44,600
But she was getting older. Pretty soon she was going to stop getting customers in the bar.906
01:35:44,600 --> 01:35:51,880
Her daughters were getting older. They needed a lot of stuff.907
01:35:57,880 --> 01:36:03,800
She had some medical problems coming up. Socialized medicine wasn't covering them.908
01:36:03,800 --> 01:36:10,680
Wouldn't even hardly fucking talk to her. A couple of them looked pretty serious. They required operations.909
01:36:10,680 --> 01:36:18,040
She needed help in her life. She needed somebody who loved her.910
01:36:19,800 --> 01:36:21,640
And she found this guy. Met him in the bar.911
01:36:23,640 --> 01:36:27,960
And from that moment he put her on allowance. She didn't have to go with customer ever again.912
01:36:27,960 --> 01:36:36,120
From that moment, and she didn't. She was one of the one in a million who wouldn't.913
01:36:36,120 --> 01:36:43,160
I think. You gotta qualify that.914
01:36:45,240 --> 01:36:49,160
And he went back and forth to Australia a few times. He traveled all over the damn place.915
01:36:49,160 --> 01:36:51,080
I think he was a professional golfer. I'm not sure.916
01:36:54,600 --> 01:37:00,600
Oh no. He did that. He dabbled in professional golfing but he was also a banker in Australia.917
01:37:00,600 --> 01:37:04,440
So he traveled all over the place. Had a lot of money. Had several homes.918
01:37:04,440 --> 01:37:11,240
Had a good life. And he never stopped loving her for one minute. And he finally came and got her.919
01:37:13,320 --> 01:37:16,120
Took her to Australia. Married her for real.920
01:37:19,320 --> 01:37:22,360
Had to pay for the divorce of the Thai piece of fucking shit921
01:37:23,640 --> 01:37:30,200
that she had run away from. And he married her for real. Really in Australia.922
01:37:30,200 --> 01:37:39,080
Bought her a nice car. He had a good, good life. Took care of her daughters. Every time the daughters923
01:37:39,080 --> 01:37:46,200
needed something, he just took care of it. And they stayed together. Well, I knew about them924
01:37:46,840 --> 01:37:54,360
for the next three or four years probably. And we talked occasionally. And I'd say,925
01:37:54,360 --> 01:38:00,680
hey, how's it going? How you doing? You happy? Oh yeah. Oh God. I'm happy. Everything's fine.926
01:38:01,720 --> 01:38:04,280
And we just did that occasionally for the next three or four years.927
01:38:05,480 --> 01:38:09,240
And I finally got to the point where I figured, well, she is as stable as she928
01:38:09,240 --> 01:38:15,320
is ever going to be in her life. Really happy that she's happy. But it's just inappropriate for me to929
01:38:15,320 --> 01:38:20,760
keep talking to her. She told this guy every conversation. He could read her phone. This930
01:38:20,760 --> 01:38:30,120
was no secretive fucking shit. I think he probably didn't like it. No one would.931
01:38:31,080 --> 01:38:37,720
He knew what our history was exactly. But he loved her enough to give her the freedom932
01:38:37,720 --> 01:38:51,320
to have other friends in her life. Good guy. Rare. Fucking rare. She got along with her family.933
01:38:51,320 --> 01:38:55,080
And I just figured, okay, that's it. That's it. She's as stable as she's going to get.934
01:38:56,360 --> 01:39:00,200
This guy cannot possibly appreciate that. It's inappropriate for us to be talking.935
01:39:01,160 --> 01:39:04,120
And I wrote her a long letter and message and said, okay, well,936
01:39:04,120 --> 01:39:10,600
you know, this is where I'm going to have to just let you go. I can't do anything more for you in937
01:39:10,600 --> 01:39:19,320
your life. We had a friendship. We learned about each other. And we learned about life together.938
01:39:21,880 --> 01:39:26,040
Learned about romance together. We learned about a lot of stuff together. If it wasn't for this guy,939
01:39:26,040 --> 01:39:32,600
yeah, we'd keep talking probably for our whole lives. But this guy is your guy now. And she940
01:39:32,600 --> 01:39:38,520
confessed slowly, slowly over the years. Well, he's not really as bad as I thought. In the beginning,941
01:39:38,520 --> 01:39:44,440
she didn't like him at all. She's just going for the stability and for the money. Period.942
01:39:45,720 --> 01:39:52,760
100%. It's not that she was neutral about him. She did not like him. And she confessed that again943
01:39:52,760 --> 01:40:03,480
and again and again. But over the years, he just kept showering her with real, true love, caring,944
01:40:03,480 --> 01:40:11,880
and help. And that brought her around. And she began to see the good in him, in his heart,945
01:40:11,880 --> 01:40:18,120
and in his soul. And that made her begin to love him. And the last time I talked to her,946
01:40:18,120 --> 01:40:28,600
she loved him as much as anybody could. And I said goodbye. Never talked to her again.947
01:40:30,920 --> 01:40:36,200
Now, I tell that story because that's almost the only one I know of.948
01:40:38,120 --> 01:40:45,000
That's good. Anywhere in Southeast Asia. No, there are some good ones. I just949
01:40:45,000 --> 01:40:52,760
don't happen to know too many of them. I'm going to tell you the antithesis to that.950
01:40:52,760 --> 01:40:58,920
And I got to be quick here because we're running out of time. I knew a girl. She worked in a bar.951
01:41:00,280 --> 01:41:06,120
Really pretty girl. Her mother had grown up in the bar. And like mother, like daughter,952
01:41:06,120 --> 01:41:11,240
she learned it from her mom. So she worked in the bar. She had tertiary customers every night.953
01:41:11,240 --> 01:41:17,400
Made a lot of money by Thai standards. She met a Falang in the bar. Where the fuck was he from?954
01:41:18,920 --> 01:41:24,920
I think from the US. He's some kind of big time engineer in the US, something like that.955
01:41:25,880 --> 01:41:33,720
He had been down there. He took her a few times to the bar, liked her, proposed. She said, okay.956
01:41:33,720 --> 01:41:45,480
Dang it. And they got married. Excuse me. Was it a Thai wedding? Well, it was at least a Thai wedding.957
01:41:46,760 --> 01:41:51,480
He might have taken her to the US to get married. Also, I'm not sure. No, no, he didn't. He didn't.958
01:41:51,480 --> 01:41:56,120
It was just a Thai wedding. They had a Thai wedding. He loved her, loved her, loved her, loved her to959
01:41:56,120 --> 01:42:04,040
death. And he built her a custom home, a big, sprawling, huge fucking custom home, about960
01:42:04,680 --> 01:42:08,600
60, 80 miles from where she had been in this bar for years and years.961
01:42:11,320 --> 01:42:14,920
And that was his home. That was her home and his home. And he had to go back to the US962
01:42:16,120 --> 01:42:20,520
quite a bit. He could come for like three months at a time, probably the length of his visa,963
01:42:20,520 --> 01:42:28,200
tourist visa. And he would stay in his home, the home that he built with her. And then he'd have964
01:42:28,200 --> 01:42:32,600
to go away for three or four months and then he could come back. So he actually got to spend,965
01:42:32,600 --> 01:42:37,960
I think, almost half the year in Thailand with her in his home. Okay. Her brother also stayed966
01:42:37,960 --> 01:42:43,240
there now. The Thais will, if they have a home, they will bring in the entire good name family,967
01:42:43,240 --> 01:42:51,480
the goats and the chickens and the cats and the neighbors of the family. And we'll talk about that968
01:42:51,480 --> 01:42:56,520
later. She didn't do that. She just had her brother stay there. And sometimes her mom.969
01:42:59,480 --> 01:43:05,320
And so this guy would come down from the US and he'd stay. And he got, he liked the brother.970
01:43:05,320 --> 01:43:09,400
They got along. He got along really famously with the brother, liked the guy, young guy.971
01:43:09,400 --> 01:43:15,800
This fella was old. He was 60. But the brother was a nice Thai guy and spoke some English.972
01:43:16,360 --> 01:43:20,520
And they did everything together. They went fishing, they went motorbike rides, they did everything.973
01:43:23,480 --> 01:43:25,000
And it worked out. It was just fine.974
01:43:28,920 --> 01:43:29,560
Except that.975
01:43:32,680 --> 01:43:33,160
I know.976
01:43:33,160 --> 01:43:36,840
The brother was her real husband.977
01:43:40,600 --> 01:43:44,600
And you're going, what? What? What'd you say? What the fuck? No, I heard that wrong. No, no.978
01:43:45,160 --> 01:43:52,840
The brother was her real husband. Now they slept together and fucked. They were husband and wife979
01:43:52,840 --> 01:43:56,360
in the home, beautiful home that the other husband had bought for her.980
01:43:56,360 --> 01:44:02,040
In Thailand, the records are horrible. You can make up any name you want. You're married. You have five husbands. Nobody's ever going to know.981
01:44:08,040 --> 01:44:12,040
She had a handful of ID cards, you know, didn't matter.982
01:44:14,040 --> 01:44:18,040
So they fucked and fucked and fucked until the following husband came and stayed.983
01:44:18,040 --> 01:44:21,880
And then the brother had to move out of her bedroom, you know, stay in his house.984
01:44:21,880 --> 01:44:27,160
She told me once it was so funny. Oh, God, this was funny. This was hilarious.985
01:44:29,160 --> 01:44:34,680
During dinner, they were all sitting at the dinner table and eating and eating and this big fat986
01:44:34,680 --> 01:44:40,360
filangus chowing down, you know, chowing down. And she987
01:44:42,360 --> 01:44:46,280
got up, went to the table and she was like, I'm going to go to the table.988
01:44:46,280 --> 01:44:55,240
And she got up, went to some room, called to her brother. Hey, can you help me with something?989
01:44:56,360 --> 01:44:58,920
Yeah, sure. So he gets up. The filangus still eating.990
01:44:59,480 --> 01:45:03,320
And they went in this other room and fucked their brains out, each other's brains out.991
01:45:03,880 --> 01:45:08,280
While husband number two was sitting there eating at the table.992
01:45:08,280 --> 01:45:13,240
And as soon as the filangus was gone, the brother moved, the brother husband moved back into993
01:45:14,040 --> 01:45:18,840
their bedroom, you know, and they just fucking, fucking, fucking. As far as I knew,994
01:45:18,840 --> 01:45:25,320
I knew this was going on for some years, quite a few years, four or five, six.995
01:45:26,600 --> 01:45:31,800
And the filangus, as far as I ever knew, he never figured out because he kept coming and kept sending996
01:45:31,800 --> 01:45:39,320
money and supporting her. Okay. That's the other side of relationships in Thailand or Southeast Asia.997
01:45:40,280 --> 01:45:43,320
And they go far worse than that, far worse than that.998
01:45:46,200 --> 01:45:48,520
Okay, so we're done. We're out of time.999
01:45:50,280 --> 01:45:53,160
I'm just going to end it because I don't know what the next one's going to cover.1000
01:45:53,160 --> 01:45:54,360
I haven't thought about it.1001
01:45:54,360 --> 01:45:59,800
So, you know, I'm going to go back to the room, and I'm going to go back to the room,1002
01:45:59,800 --> 01:46:06,600
and I haven't thought about it. Okay. Thank you very much. And good evening. This is number,1003
01:46:06,600 --> 01:46:15,560
what is it? This is number 14. So good evening. And I was going to say German. I can't remember.1004
01:46:15,560 --> 01:46:32,840
Good night.